God calls us to be gracious, loving, giving. We are to give security to those we know and meet. Our iniquity (brokenness) makes this impossible. Our iniquities cripple us. Psalm 38:4 "For mine iniquities are gone over mine head: as an heavy burden they are too heavy for me." Psalm 40:12 "For innumerable evils have compassed me about: mine iniquities have taken hold upon me, so that I am not able to look up; they are more than the hairs of mine head: therefore my heart faileth me."
Jesus came to heal our wounds and to restore relationship with him and with others. Only by trusting him can we love other people.
We can not love more than we know and believe that we are loved. Our God loves us. John 15:12 "This is my commandment, that ye love one another as I have loved you."
We can not forgive more than we know that we are forgiven. Ephesians 4:32 "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."
We can not treat others with more grace than we have embraced and experienced for ourselves. Romans 5:20 "Moreover the law entered that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound." Colossians 3:16 "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord."
An unstable person can not provide stability for anyone. They make the world around them more unstable. They create fear in the hearts of those they know. When Christ is your foundation in reality, not just in words, you are able to serve and love others as God would have you do.
Isaiah 28:116 "Therefore thus saith the Lord God, Behold, I lay in Zion for a foundation a stone, a tried stone, a precious scorner stone, a sure foundation: he that believeth shall not make haste." When Peter quotes this in 1 Peter 2:6 he interprets "haste" as "confounded" or "confused". The person who stands firmly in Jesus Christ is secure, sure, and confident. He is able to serve God.